Tribute is a term associated with a supplicant-master type of situation. To my mind comes ancient China and its surrounding tributary kingdoms. The vassal kings would send tribute to China but in return would receive gifts of far more value. All in all its not a terrible proposition for the weaker party. The reason I write of tribute today is because its underutilized in society. If paying tribute is properly used, the dividends far outweigh the costs as was the case with ancient China.
In Korea, foreigners are viewed with some suspicions as Korea is a homogenous closed society. A lot of emphasis is placed on connections, bloodlines and relationships. Initially this cost me some difficulty as the people in authority at a club I would visit viewed me wearily.
Now, what I speak of is my little area of Itaewon, specifically UN club. My friend Damien wanted to get in for free but he wasn’t allowed. He asked me how I managed to get in free every week and I said tribute. He scoffed at this notion as being beneath him. Long story short, I could go in and out at will and occasionally get free drinks while Damien was stuck paying 10,000 won and no free drinks if he decided to go in.
Now how did I manage to get in free to this club all the time? I will call it tribute. When I first came to Korea, I fell in love with public drinking at convenient stores. As was often my style early on in my Korean adventure, I was sitting outside of UN club drinking. I refused to pay to get in as by nature I am not a club guy and I just needed to wait until my friends came out.
I ended up talking to the security guard Patrick, and realized he was divorced and had a son. I told him I would be going to the states and I would pick up a toy for his son. Initially, he probably assumed that it was just drunk talk but sure enough when I returned, I brought his son a remote controlled car. After that I was let into the club for free and it’s been that way since 2012.
Since that initially tribute, my ‘tribute’ to Patrick the security guard took many forms. I would bring him food, buy gum/tea etc for him up at the nearby store, help him check IDs, and on rare occasions get the police for him. What is my input? Very minimal because I cook anyways, and I am usually drinking nearby the club entrance anyway. What is my return? Free entry to the club which normally amounts to 10,000 won, the occasional free drinks, getting to meet girls entering the club due to my association with the club and the backing of the security personnel if any hypothetical situation were to occur. All in all, not a bad return. Even after he left the club, he introduced me to his replacement and spoke highly of me. His replacement continues to let me in for free while I continue to do acts of ‘tribute’ for him.
Those are mainly financial gains. On the other hand, I can say I have made a genuine friend. As he changed jobs, he asked for my facebook account and in all sincerity asked me to stay in touch. He told me in confidence once that he didn’t trust foreigners but that he trusted me and considered me a friend.
My point is, invest in relationships and it pays off. I call it ‘tribute’ as it is in a sense tribute or maybe bartering is a better word. In the long run, I have saved hundreds of dollars in club entrance fees and drinks by fulfilling a few simple tasks, helping and bringing the occasional dinner along. However, Damien refused to go that route and was stuck paying 10,000 each weekend.